This story is a bit longer than most, so sorry in advance for the length!
One day my husband and I were discussing our life. We had a roof over our heads, food on the table and were making ends meet, but we wanted to do more than just make ends meet. We both have an idea of what our life will be like eventually and debt free is pretty close to the top of the “Our Ideal Future” list.
So, how do we get there? That was a pretty big question at the time. Well, the obvious choice to my husband was for him to travel. We were homeowners so the typical thing to do would be for him to travel, come home every 2-4 months for a short period of time between jobs and us visit him occasionally. It’s what a lot of people in his industry do, it’s even what his brother did for a period of time.
On paper and in theory that sounded great, to an extent. In my mind all I could imagine was my children growing up without their dad around more often than not. Sure it’d only be for a limited amount of years, but I still didn’t like it. On a more selfish level though, was being isolated at home with my children 24/7. Don’t get me wrong because I love my children and I willingly chose to be a stay-at-home-mom so I could spend every day with them. If I ever somehow get a “do-over” I would still choose to be a SAHM, but completely by myself? Constantly? With a reprieve only every few months? Sure, we would still be able to attend our MOPS events and do lunch with friends from time to time, but we’d still be by ourselves at home. In order for me to get the full point across I need to inform you that my husband is my lifeline. He understands the chaos. He helps with bath time and dishes and laundry and more often than not on his days off he lets ME sleep in. He always remembers to take the trash out on trash days because I just can’t for the life of me ever remember. Not only is he my lifeline with the kids and chores, but he is MY person. When I’m having a bad day, or am just flat out grumpy (which if you know me at all it’s pretty often) he makes me laugh. Constantly. Lots of times begrudgingly, but he still brings my happiness to the surface. He lightens my load every single day just by being him, even if he is extremely frustrating in the process! 😉
So, yeah. Him traveling? Us staying home? That was pretty much at the very, very, very bottom of the list of possibilities for me. I knew that him traveling would be a blessing financially and I didn’t want to completely just shut down his idea so I continued to think it over. At one point I briefly mentioned the idea of us all traveling and Evan pretty much shut that down right away. A super tiny space with two toddlers? No way. What would we do with the house? What about my friends, family, MOPS, etc.? Well to me it was pretty obvious….all of those things are great, but they aren’t him. We chose to start an “us” because we wanted to do life together, not separated ¾ of the year.
Well then I started looking into things a lot more and found out about these 5th wheels that are extremely nice, nicer than our house at the time, actually. They have a ton of room and multiple bedrooms. They’re pricey, sure, but if we were to sell our house it would totally be feasible. I continued to do some early morning research in my free time, and by early morning and free time I mean 1am when my children are asleep because I’m a mom of two crazy kiddos. I got all of my ducks in a row and basically strong armed him into listening to everything I had to say….which consisted of talking his ear off during the 1.5 hour drive from our home in Burlington, KS to where we grew up in Archie, MO. At the end of the conversation I told him either all of us are traveling, or none of us are traveling because I didn’t think I’d make it without him around. I could tell I finally got through to him because he wasn’t totally negative about everything I had to say.
Well, that conversation happened last year around Easter and look at us now! It’s been a long year with a lot of obstacles throughout the process, but we made it. We officially closed on our house February 28th, purchased our 5th wheel March 17th and have been happily living in under 450 square feet ever since!